Seriously, a girl can't go to the grocery store and pick up a bunch of bananas without Adele coming over the radio and reminding her, "Sometimes it lasts in love, sometimes it hurts instead....."
Totally uncalled for. I mean. . .Yeah.
Well. When you have been a "We," it takes a painful mental adjustment to become an "I" again, I think. Maybe this doesn't apply to you right now, maybe it does, maybe it never will again. This is my blog, so I can only write about what's on my mind.
So here is a little tongue-in-cheek guidebook I am writing for the tough transitions in life. . .written particularly for the broken-up girl, but possibly with broader applications. . .
- Pray until you find certainty and peace about your decisions if at all possible. And write down the foundation for your certainty so that you can refer to it frequently in moments of mental vacillation. (They will come. You gotta be armed.)
- Permit yourself to feel your feelings fully and without evasion.
- But don't dwell on them. If you find yourself wallowing, think about bigger, more important things to put your problems in perspective.
- Rest. If you ran a marathon, you'd stretch and kick back for awhile, right? Well, if your heart has just run an emotional marathon, let it chill out. Lay on the couch. Stare out a window. Stare at a wall. Relax.
- It is okay to live on pizza and ice cream for a day or two.
- But don't forego a daily multivitamin. No need to compound heartache with symptoms of nutritional deficiency.
- And after a day or two, drag yourself back into the kitchen and remind yourself what fine things vegetables are.
- Do not watch depressing movies. Do not watch rom-coms, either.
- Do not listen to happy or sad love songs. At least, not until they are less irritating.
- Be the type of girl who is resilient enough to buy herself flowers. (They will help. Really.)